So here’s my first post. Starting on a pretty heavy topic. *Fingers crossed*
Well, Kelly Clarkson sang it and people reiterate it all the time. And what exactly is it?
What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.
We all have heard it or said it to some one atleast once in our lifetime. It is meant to inspire, motivate, console and do god knows what not. It is supposed to make you feel better. To help you make it through tough situations and phases. To give you hope when you’ve given up. But, there is this one teeny weeny thing people leave out when dishing out this quote.
Yes, what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. But doesn’t what make you stronger also kill a part of you in the process?
Look at this way. You basically lose a part of yourself just to become a stronger person. It means losing that part which made you vulnerable in the first place. Just to toughen up, to grow stronger and fight on.
It may seem to be a good idea. Getting rid of that weak side and becoming a stronger person. But can you ever really ‘become’ a stronger person? Does that kind of change in personality ever happen? Nope. I don’t think so.
In the words of Brooke Davis, One Tree Hill, “Honestly, I don’t really think people can change. You know, at the end of the day, you are who you are, and it’s probably who you’ve always been.”
Yes. Situations may change but we remain the same people we were five years back. Or maybe, even ten. Small changes may have occurred but our basic personality, the real us, never changes. So no matter how much you’ve been through, how much you’ve suffered or how much you’ve survived, you will be the same. You will be you.
And that is completely fine. You will make the same mistakes again. Life will put you in tougher situations that you won’t be prepared for. You will hurt. You will feel helpless and hopeless. You will wanna give up. You may even break down and cry once in a while (or very often). You will go through the same pain again. And having gone through it before will not guarantee you any extra strength. Your strength will depend only on the fighter in you, the one that’s been there since birth.
So, brace yourselves. Life is a roller-coaster-turned-columbus. Life throws problems and pain your way and you have no other choice but to deal with it. Whether you like it or not. And in that process if you discover a newfound strength, just know that it’s always been there in you. It just found it’s way out now that you needed it. And it’s definitely not the ‘what doesn’t kill you’ stuff!